Your baby won’t let you sit down and now you are wondering if there are solutions to this issue. Trust me I know how it feels. No doubt babies are adorable but once in a while they can get increasingly clingy and this always doesn’t give you room to perform some house duties or rest. You are only to do whatever when they are fast asleep and this stresses parents out.
Let’s picture this, for instance, you have been busy, you have had no time to rest and then your baby cries for your attention but whenever you try to sink into a chair close by your baby would start crying all over again. This leaves you wondering why this could be happening.
It’s normal for babies to cry for parental attention, and most times they don’t to be snuggled in their parent’s arms while they are up and about because it makes them feel relaxed, comfortable, and safe. However, you can help the situation by understanding your baby, calling for assistance, heading out, and teaching them how to be independent.
It’s normal to feel frustrated at some point, but it’s best to keep calm. Your baby is not trying to frustrate you, they don’t just feel safe when you sit down. Let’s get you familiar with the reasons babies prefer being held while you are on your feet and also provide you with tips that can be useful to you.
Reason Why Babies Fuss When You Sit Down
Many things can make a baby fuss but if it happens when you try to sit down the major reason is that your baby feels unsafe.
Why? Let me explain. According to a study in 2013 published in Current Biology, “the infant calming response to maternal carrying is a coordinated set of central, motor, and cardiac regulations” which further shows that babies feel safe and calm when they are being held while standing.
Scientists believe that babies always have the instinct to danger being close, that’s why they would prefer their parents or guardians to be on alert in case of an emergency.
Unbelievable right? Let’s blow your mind. The experiment conducted by this study shows that babies get anxious when held sitting down, and their heart rates increase but it goes back to normal when mom or dad is up and about. This goes to show that babies feel vulnerable and exposed to danger when you sit but when you are standing and in motion, they are certain you’ll be able to swing into action as quickly as possible.
“So what’s the danger they are frightened of?” you may ask. Predators. Paint this scenario, you are a newborn in the wild. Your survival instinct is to be cuddled in your parents’ arms away from wild cats or predators in general. I’m sure you’d rather they hold while on their feet rather than when they are sitting and relaxed.
Useful Tips For When Your Baby Refuse To Let You Sit Down
Here are some practical tips you should keep in mind when this situation happens again.
1. Understand Your Baby
Many parents usually feel frustrated at this point, and this is quite normal. But one of the only ways to feel calm is by understanding that your baby is not just fussing to get you tired, they are doing it because they want to be safe. Babies feel vulnerable and exposed to danger when in a sitting position, they can protect themselves and they are counting on you to survive. These little drill sergeants need you and it’s natural for them to feel this way.
2. Ask For Help
Self-care is very important and you need it to provide your baby with the care possible. You can’t always do these things on your own, when you begin to feel overwhelmed, tired or frustrated ask someone else to help you out either with the baby or with other pending chores. it’s alright to take a break once in a while as this is the only way to balance everything out and feel sane. You can choose to get a nanny or pass the baby to your husband whichever you think is best, just make sure you catch a break.
3. Take A Walk
Heading out is not only good for the baby but you as well. It’s not news that babies are always calm when you take them outdoors. Take a walk with your baby, or go to the park. This might help calm the situation for both of you.
4. Rock Baby To Sleep
Another solution is to put your baby to sleep or take a nap. This will help relax your baby and give you time for yourself as well. We know that sometimes babies fuss because they are tired or feeling sleepy. You should be able to reel when it’s time for your baby to sleep.
5. Teach Them To Be Independent
The bottom line is babies have to learn to self-soothe and be independent and to teach them that you have to not let them have their way all the time. For instance, if your baby wants you to stand while holding them, don’t stand immediately, allow them to fuss a little. They need to understand that there’s nothing to be scared of. And with continuous practice, they would learn, which is good for you and the baby as well.
6. Join A Support Group
Yes, parents too need a support group. The truth of the matter is that many parents have similar experiences as you, and it will be nice to share issues, ideas, and solutions with one another. It helps ease
7. Trial And Error
You need to keep trying but keep in mind that this won’t last forever. Your baby is still developing and hasn’t quite gotten a hang of things around him or her. Usually, this could go on for the first four months of an infant’s life, and then it is over. So stay strong and calm while nurturing your baby.
Parenting can be overwhelming sometimes but you are not alone, there are a lot of parents experiencing what you are going through.
Nurturing a child requires a lot of patience, love, and care. However, it will not harm you if you choose to take a break every once in a while, get someone to assist you, join a support group, or leave them to fuss a few times while teaching them how to be independent.